Let me start with something honest:
There was a time when I didn’t want to celebrate my birthday. Not because I didn’t value life. Not because I wasn’t grateful. But because, deep down, I felt unseen, unheard, and maybe… unimportant.
Sounds familiar?
If you’ve ever found yourself quietly avoiding your birthday, brushing it off with a “it’s just another day,” or dreading the expectations and attention, I see you. I hear you. I’ve been you.
But let’s talk about why that even happens. And whether it’s truly a problem or simply a misunderstood signal from your soul.
The Birthday That Never Felt Like Mine
Until I was 26, birthdays were just days for me. Others celebrated theirs with cake, candles, chaos. Mine? Quiet. Reserved. Almost forgotten. And for years, I waited. Waited for someone else to take the lead. To plan, to celebrate, to make it special.
Spoiler alert: It didn’t happen.
So, in 2012, I bought my own birthday cake. For the first time. Not out of rebellion. But out of reclamation.
That was the year I stopped waiting to be celebrated and chose to honor myself.
And that decision? It changed everything.
Why Do Some People Hate Birthdays?
Let’s get psychological for a moment.
1. Childhood Imprints
Many of our adult behaviors come from unconscious childhood programming. Maybe birthdays weren’t celebrated in your family. Maybe they were, but always brought drama. Maybe you were compared to a sibling, or your parents forgot it altogether.
So now? Your brain associates birthday = discomfort.
2. Fear of Disappointment
Expectations can kill joy. We secretly want people to remember, to show up. But we also fear they won’t. So we avoid the entire day to protect ourselves from hurt.
3. Low Self-Worth
Let’s be real. If we don’t believe we’re worthy of attention, love, or celebration, we don’t want a day that contradicts that belief. Celebrating ourselves feels unnatural.
4. Spiritual Disconnect
Some spiritual seekers feel birthdays are too “egoic” to celebrate. But here’s a truth bomb: Honoring your creation isn’t ego. It’s gratitude.
The Turning Point: What Changed for Me
From 2012 onwards, I made it a ritual. I decided my birthday was not just a calendar date. It was my personal New Year.
Your body actually renews its cells around your solar return. That means… your birthday is literally your energetic rebirth. Your karmic checkpoint.
Every year on this day, I ask myself:
What did I gain?
What did I lose?
What am I still holding onto that I need to release?
What is the Universe whispering to me now?
That reflection has become my sacred birthday ritual.
When Clients Say, "I Hate My Birthday"
In 1:1 Akashic Reading sessions, I often hear this:
“I don’t like my birthday, Neha. Is something wrong with me?”
And my answer is always:
“No, love. There’s nothing wrong with you. But there might be something unhealed in you.”
Sometimes it traces back to past lives where their birthday was a day of trauma. Other times, it’s ancestral patterns or soul contracts around abandonment or invisibility.
One client felt deep sadness every birthday. We accessed her Records and discovered that her soul had experienced a loss on the same date in a previous incarnation. Once she understood the root, it lost its grip on her.
That’s the magic of the Akashic Records – they show you the deeper “why”.
Why Celebrating Your Existence Matters
Let’s flip the lens.
You might think you’re being humble or spiritual by ignoring your birthday. But what if… you’re actually denying the divine creation that you are?
What if… refusing to honor your birthday is like telling the Universe, “Hey, your masterpiece? Meh.”
Your birthday is the day your soul chose to incarnate. It’s not about candles or Instagram posts. It’s about alignment. It’s about saying YES to life.
Even if no one shows up with gifts, the Universe shows up with breath. That’s worth celebrating.
How to Reclaim Your Birthday (Even if You’re Not the "Birthday Type")
If you’re someone who’s never liked your birthday, try these:
1. Write a Letter to Your Younger Self Tell them what you’ve survived, learned, become.
2. Reflect Like It’s Year-End Do a mini life audit: What did this year teach you?
3. Plan One Thing for YOUR Soul Whether it’s a solo cafe date, a spa day, a call with a soul friend — make it sacred.
4. Do an Akashic Reading This is a powerful time to access your Records and ask:
What is this new cycle about?
What do I need to release from the past?
What gifts are activating within me now?
5. Receive Without Guilt Let people love you. Let the Universe spoil you. Practice receiving.
Final Thoughts (And a Gentle Challenge)
If you’ve read this far, I want to invite you into something brave:
Celebrate your next birthday. Not for the world. But for you.
Because when you honor the day your soul took form, you anchor deeper into your power.
This is not about cake. This is about creation.
And if you’ve ever felt unseen, forgotten, or overlooked— you get to change that narrative. Not by demanding celebration from others. But by offering it to yourself.
Want to Go Deeper?
Your birthday is a portal. A powerful time to ask:
What karmic cycle am I completing?
What is my soul being prepared for?
What ancestral patterns am I meant to break?
Book an Akashic Reading Session with me and let’s uncover your soul’s blueprint for your next chapter.
You’re not just a human. You’re a divine event. And your birthday? A cosmic celebration.
Don’t skip it. 🌟
By Neha Singla | Akashic Record Reader | Spiritual Mentor