Why You Keep Dreaming About Your Ex- By Neha Singla
Subah uth ke sabse pehla khayal yeh aaya — “Yeh fir se mere sapne mein kya kar raha tha?!”
And honestly? If memories of your ex came with a subscription, I would’ve cancelled it years ago.
But here’s the thing most people don’t tell you:
Dreams about an ex aren’t random.
They’re not silly, or irrelevant, or something you should feel guilty about. And no, your brain isn’t stuck in reverse. These dreams are messages — from your subconscious, your soul, your energy body — trying to get your attention.
Let’s unpack this with honesty, fun, and full-on clarity.
First things first: Dreams = Subconscious WhatsApp Chats
Not everything spiritual needs to be woo-woo.
Your dreams are your mind’s way of saying: “Hey! There’s something you haven’t fully processed yet.”
Just like your phone sends you reminders, your subconscious sends you emotional notifications.
So if you’ve been dreaming about your ex, that doesn’t automatically mean you’re in love with them again. It means something about that chapter is still open. Even if you’ve deleted the number and blocked them on every app.
Scenario 1: You Wake Up Feeling Chilled & Neutral
The dream felt weird, but you didn’t feel much. Just a, “Huh. That was random.”
This is often a sign they are thinking about you.
Yup. Guilt, regret, overthinking — energy travels. Especially if you were emotionally connected.
Our energy fields pick up on these subtle nudges. We’re like emotional antennas — even if you’re not in contact, you’re still connected on a soul frequency.
Does that mean you should text them? Nope.
Just be aware — not all thoughts are yours.
Scenario 2: You Wake Up Heavy, Drained, Anxious
This one hurts.
You wake up with a pit in your stomach. You’re tired even after 8 hours of sleep. There’s emotional residue you just can’t shake.
Guess what? This time, it’s not about them. It’s about you.
You might have said, “I’m over them,” out loud. But deep inside? There’s still bitterness, grief, guilt, or anger stuck somewhere.
Your mind is trying to resolve it through dreams. Because consciously, you’re too busy being ‘fine’.
Client Story (because real is relatable)
I worked with a woman — let’s call her Ria.
She broke up four years ago. Happy on Instagram, new job, new city, even dating again. But every week, her ex showed up in her dreams.
We did an Akashic Records reading, and found something powerful:
They had a karmic soul agreement — a lesson that was left incomplete.
There was still forgiveness needed. A cord that hadn’t been energetically cut.
Once she released it — The dreams stopped. Her energy shifted. And she felt free, not just single.
Let’s talk about what your ex actually represents
Sometimes your ex isn’t your ex.
They’re a mirror.
They show you parts of yourself you still need to reclaim or heal.
Maybe it’s your self-worth, your trust issues, your fear of abandonment.
So when they show up in your dreams — they’re showing you you.
That heartbreak? It wasn’t just about a breakup. It was about how you stopped trusting love. Or how you began over-giving. Or how you abandoned your own needs.
Why do we dream more when we say, “I’m done for good”?
Because endings trigger unresolved beginnings.
The moment you consciously try to move on, your subconscious starts scanning: “Wait… have we really moved on? Or are we just pretending?”
Dreams come in to do the deep cleaning.
But Neha, why does it feel so real?
Because emotion doesn’t care about logic.
You could be on your 3rd relationship post-breakup, and still feel your heart flutter at a dream memory.
That’s normal.
It doesn’t mean you’re weak or confused. It means you’re human.
Just don’t confuse feeling with meaning.
Feel it. Reflect on it. Learn from it.
But don’t book tickets to the past just because your dreams hit replay.
Other Common Dream Themes (and What They May Mean)
- You’re fighting with your ex — unresolved anger or lack of closure
- They apologize to you — you crave validation or healing
- You’re back together — you miss a part of yourself from that time
- They ignore you — fear of being invisible or unworthy
- You’re watching them move on — grief over your own progress or self-comparison
So… what do you do with these dreams?
- Don’t panic.
- Don’t judge yourself.
- Ask better questions.
- What feeling did this dream leave me with?
- Do I still have something unhealed?
- Is this about them — or what they triggered in me?
Here’s the gold: Dreams = Homework Assignments
Your soul is always guiding you. Sometimes loudly. Sometimes through a 3AM dream that ruins your REM cycle.
But the message is this: “There’s still something to be completed. Don’t ignore me.”
Every time you brush it under the carpet, it shows up in another form:
- Repeating patterns in new relationships
- Self-sabotage
- Fear of intimacy
- Distrust in love
Truth Bomb 💣
It’s not about your ex. It’s about your experience with them.
Heal that… and the dreams shift from haunting to healing.
A Quick Exercise You Can Try
Before sleeping, ask:
“What is this dream trying to tell me?”
Keep a notebook beside your bed. Write the dream as soon as you wake up — no filter. Even a few lines help.
Do this for a week. Patterns will emerge. Emotions will reveal themselves.
And clarity will start dripping in — one layer at a time.
Final Words (and a Hug from Me)
If you’ve been battling with dreams that confuse, trigger, or scare you — breathe.
You’re not alone. You’re not stuck. And you’re definitely not crazy.
You’re healing. One dream at a time.
And sometimes, your soul uses your ex as a postman.
Don’t shoot the messenger. Read the letter. Understand the lesson. Then release the story.
Because you, my friend, are meant for new stories. Braver love. And dreams that feel like peace, not pain.
If you’re curious about what your soul might be trying to say through these dreams, I recommend exploring “Step-by-Step Akashic Reading” — a gentle and empowering way to decode your deeper truth.
But more than anything, know this: You are not broken. You’re just becoming whole.
With heart, Neha Singla💛
Soul Journey Expert I Akashic Reader I Mystic Poet I Author
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